RelationShips.... We all deal with!!

Relationships, seems complicated but leaves you with the most enduring experience of your life. You meet people, with some you sense union and rest you don’t even realize their exit. I have met number of people past few years now some had terrible experience with their spouse, boyfriends or girl friends what is important here is what do you learn from all these. I have seen my own friends getting back to the same place where hell beckons. But why? Is it lack of confidence that you will not find a better person or you believe it’s better to be with the one about whom you can envisage their unhealthy reactions better than a fine one?

                 Ages have passed, technology has developed immensely in all the grounds but still it has not made any of our lives simpler when it comes to adjustments of things we have or get. With more choices on your plate more perplexed you become. “Once only person you desired happen to be the only one you want to get rid of.”

              We all have dreams, some come true some don’t, well…. For many no dreams come true!!! I guess it’s our mistake to dream unreasonably….. We carry certain ideas about how one’s relation with a guy or girl should be and we seal it. Probably so we end up not accepting any change we come across while nurturing that relation. After lots of troubles and pains, unhappiness  and hurtful  happenings of what I have heard from people, friends and myself  I have broken the term relation to three different categories. It would be fateful and for some its destiny to fall in any of these.

Category 1(The Ruler): In this relation girl or the guy rules the other totally!!! Controlling is in every blood cell. They tend to govern your daily activities. They are all over almost 75% of relationships are based on this one category. Some people need such “Rulers” only because they do not know how to become or cant become one.. The Only Prisoner of HIS/HER obsessive affection and wrong choices!!!

·         Time for you to get up,

·         Have you sent good morning message to her/him

·         Go pick her up n should drop her to the workplace/college!! You haven’t taken bath its fine… she has anyways…. (Applies to men only)

·         Call him/her at regular intervals of time…. Mostly all the time!!

·         How many times have you said “I love you” for the day… only 20 times…. WRONG!!!!

·         It’s just me your life revolves around and no place to escape

·         Some unwelcomed opinions/support/help/advices from your “only” loved one. Not that you can say no because they have decided to do so.

·         Your life changing decisions are made by them. (You should have thought about this when you decided to be with this person and that already have changed your life!!!!)

Category 2(Vague): You definitely do not know what you can term the relation you are sharing with this person you cannot live without or say can live with. Little tense moments and lots of fun define this relationship. Yeah at times you do feel like putting an end to such involvement and giving it a name but that just do not happen. This one of such relation where things are unbecoming of what you expect.

·         She/he is gorgeous or handsome but she/he is just “my friend”

·         I love having coffee with him/her but I don’t look forward for it impatiently.

·         Yeah I can come along….

·         She/he comes to you with series of crushes they had and initially you are “OK” with it but gradually your emotional senses starts working and u just don’t like it!!

·         Lots of Whys, how’s???? surround you

·         You do miss this person severely then you will get a hang of it and you start avoiding the facts which says WHY IS THIS HAPPENING NOW????

·         You will end up moving on in life because you never stopped anytime to give this kind of relation a “CHANCE”!!

Category 3(By Mistake): This relation is sewed when you least expect it. You are out of one deep love or “What so Ever” relation and this person appears in your life of course surprisingly , to some extent shockingly she/he is everything your “EX” was not or could not be!! Not that you were waiting for one such person to come along and take care of you though you are badly in “NEED” of love and affection. Bu t yes my dear readers it sure happens this way and you tend to not escape from this or let’s just say you do not want to because you are in “NEEEED” of  such person. Happiness when it goes over the top it becomes unbelievable and unbearable at times. That’s when you realize all this which you thought would be happening with the one you loved is happening with this person.  We make “Mistakes” and we start living a life with these.  I am not against such relation because I feel it’s a good thing you found all of it in this person what your “EX” couldn’t be!!!  But the unfortunate ones are not to be blamed because every “Mistake” doesn’t turn out to be a Perfect Surprise which is just great to last forever.

·         You instantly start comparing this person with “other” people( turns out to be the “Best” in every aspect)

·         It’s almost  a “Dream” to be and spending time with this person(this is exactly what you wanted out of a “Relation”)

·         As “Perfect” as she/he can get…

·         Great Lunches,  Right evenings, Long hours of  “meaningful” conversation

·         Adjustments are petite with this person

·         Trivial battle of words is only making you get closer to this person.

Relationships are the chief areas where you obtain best teachings of life. Some are handy, from some you learn how not to be!!!

Our entire life we spend looking for the “Right” one, Yes it is a process, after ages of filtrations, sampling of few, loss of money, time, energy you finally alter your “demands” of finding the right one!!And I don’t see it as a WASTE because it isn’t coz you at the end have the “ONE” you feel is “SORTED” and “ETERNAL”!!!

Being scared to plunge in the “Right Relationship” you think it is, is a risk anyway but fighting the odds and emerging as a winner is Destiny!!!

  My Advice to all of you is get into relationships which is inevitable but “DEFINING” the relation to yourself and to him\her is imperative. The relation which brings smile on your face and soothes your life’s strain, energizes you to appreciate what you have, what you contain is the one you must not lose. Amidst the confusion you find solution through this one person only because he/she has known you “WELL” enough to heave you out. Relations need no name if that fairly keeps you contented!!!

*few guide lines:

·         Be aware of “people” around you, never know one of them happens to be your “special” one.

·         Listen to him/her who has consistently supported you or guided you.

·         Appreciate things he/she do (coz no one else is doing it anyway).

·         Give a “THOUGHT” to that extraordinary bond you share with this person.

·         Give a “CHANCE” to this break in your relation.(Halt  is needed , you will only know how important or not so important HE/SHE is)

·         Any relation with no name is fine because you are not feeling anything else but pleased!!!(But some Sanity, Purity is required!!!)

·         Any Meaningful Relation with anyone would never be squandered, it will only make you a WISE person.

To Be in RIGHT RELATION LOVE, RESPECT is ESSENTIAL, more importantly RIGHT CHOICE!!!!