I used to like my biryani much spicy…..

How is it going to be if we bump into our ex-boyfriends/girlfriends? Is it thrilling, nice, happy or worst to have experienced. We talk, talk so much about how well we have moved on from our past but have we really? I would not like to take the credit from those who really made an attempt to let go and find themselves at best place now. It seems certain they had valid points to quit. My best friend says he hates to hear unnecessary details from his ex-girlfriend ( in his mind; I have tolerated enough of your likes and dislikes , time to concentrate on mine).  

When you think of it now, life then was like a food served from best of chef and to try something different, with all the right/”let’s try this” ingredients he invented a bad dish!

I think like we categorize food, I can as well relate the kinds to group of people who have or tried moving on!!!!

Veg “Ball” Manchurian: They like it simple, just one dish and round. Life for them is one big circle. The obvious group of people who conveniently fell in love thinking this would be simple and then marriage, which of course did not happen. When they meet their exes while shopping in a huge super market and you are carrying your baby in one hand and groceries on the other, You truly want to drop everything down, all that you are holding!!!! Or hide your kid!!!! But since you guys like veg “ball” Manchurian you will exchange some haayeees and baaayees , “long time where were you ???. See you later some time we will surely catch up “. This again never happens. Whole drive home they relive their past and sudden one slap on your cheek, yeah your baby boy saying appa/ amma…. . Not that they like it this way they are bored/ indolent to give it a try. They still remember her/his favorite restaurant and every time you visit this only restaurant “accidentally”/”purposefully” (Phut[sound of music])!!!! Comes the slap. They never can or maybe want to move on , they like to tread on the same path.

Andra “Spicy” Biryani: They like it with all kinds of masalas, pungent, obnoxious, intolerant spices. The “I dumped her/him crowd”. Most confident, unreasonably proud set of humans. When they wanted it , it was the battle they won but when they lost him/her it was a defeat or failure . None of the biryanis they have tasted, consumed for months now seems spicier. When you happen to meet her/him clearly in one of the Nandini restaurants you know for the fact you have to behave (insane fake act) of being “happiest” . You are relishing every spoon of this dish, you are mouthful and she/he walking towards you , you want to puke this out or choke to death as clueless/extremely delighted you seem she/he says “hi” How have you been?, By the way this is my fiance!

You swallow the food in the mouth and the fact you just heard then say “congratzzz”. She/he leaves, you turn to your friend and say after such long time I had amazing biryani today. I never really liked him/her anyway!!!!!.

Our all-time favorite “Masala Dosa”:   Right set of mass who truly made an attempt to move on , with certain reasons and over the time have accepted it was only for good and now they see why because there is more room for masala dosas anytime , anywhere. Set of people who have always admired the art of food making , preparations and loved the aroma of masala dosa. Typically, I mean they loved, there was indeed happiness somewhere although it failed that still did not kill their purpose to continue to lead a blissful life with or without. Rarest of all existence!!!! Somewhere you are appreciating the idea of having one more Masala Dosa and your ex walks in to the counter to order , you say hi and she/he says hi and you get lost in the thoughts of how awesomely you would relish the dosa. While your much awaited dosa is being made you talk about here and there stuffs. And you take your only best, needed friend dosa for now, bid goodbye. Now the remarkable part is your ex-boyfriend/girl friend is gawking at you abusing her/his fate why did I say goodbye to him/her. With this chutney this dosa becomes even yummier….

Sometimes I do feel we all like bumping into our ex-boyfriend/girlfriend accidentally or hunt them down just to let them know how happily one have survived. All our tastes changes, routine, likes changes over the time. We all move on consciously, forcefully but love for anything new never really changes. I used to like my biryani much spicy but now I have started to eat it with less spice or adjust it with raitha!!!!

Love

Megz

Good food and a mug of beer!!!!!

If they do not know what women want, do we know what men want really?

Good food and a mug of beer!!!!!

As simple as the answer seems its equally traumatic to convince them what you offer is “good food”, and probe them for a Friday candle light dinner , their convenient preference is to sit at home, with bunch of crazy friends, cigarette and mug of beer. Let’s not focus on their topic of discussion!!!!!

Now it’s been ages, and men still feel they do not know the women in their lives. Is it because women are mysterious or men are too bored to find out … Here are some of them I came across, met and friends with ..

Not so Emotional type (ESPN in person): Set of boys, who never knew they were born with some emotions. Who assumed they are here to feel full filled and satisfied by watching their favorite team win all the games. While they are engrossed watching their team loose, kindly do not ask them questions.

Scenario A:

Excited Wife: Baby (use of this word is tricky, because she only wants to hear “good” stuffs about herself), Do you think I look fat.

Tensed husband: Observes 2 minutes silence and this look ( a homeless dog, looking for family and support), He doesn’t answer, he is watching his team loose that last wicket and here he lost his only hope of having some good s** tonight.

Very emotional type (A yash raj movie): Set of men, who always knew what they wanted and achieve, all they desired was “a great happy family, living even more happily after”. He fell in love in college and that ended there. All disheartened he hounds for love and love yet again. He grabs this very opportunity to say I love you and next date he has made plans of marriage and kids. Now that he is married “happily” there is still something missing in his life. Voila surprisingly its love again, Wife is not the women he loved. Shockingly, things seem pretty normal and he hates it. These need some drama, drama all the time.

Scenario B:

SRK of the first order (filmy husband): I wish we could go to this exotic location….sing, dance, talk and eat best of cuisines.

Equally frustrated wife: Well, before that could you change your baby’s diaper while I finish watching this episode of soap serial. Hero of this serial is back, his rebirth.

Well balanced type (National Geographic, Discovery channel by nature): He knows it all. Says the right word, or prefer not to say at all. Set of guys who can make tea for you when you badly need it and simultaneously say they can’t join you for your party since he reluctantantly (undisclosed emotion “desperately”) committed to his friend’s bachelor party. Now that he has said yes he has to go. For the record they are sorted of all, very few left, endangered species.

Scenario C:

Endangered Species walking towards his girlfriend: Sweetheart I made ginger tea only for you, you must be really exhausted after a day’s work. 

Very happy, slightly suspicious look girlfriend: (Oh.. I know he is not joining me to the party today), How sweet baby I needed this so badly

Boy: (he takes his move slowly, steadily) How was your day, All’s well?

Girl (now a bit more suspicious): Worst.. really bad.. you know what that jackass told me to send the report in half an hour. I have taken 3 days to get the data and now how on earth will I be able to make report in such shore time. And….

Before she could continue, he knew this conversation today will take longer time than usual. 

Boy: You know what just forget it “you” go and have fun today, “you” have a party. I will help you choose the finest of your clothes and you will look absolutely haaat!!!(Hot).

Girl: (wait.. wait… you go????): Yeah , I think I should by the way aren’t you gonna join me?

Well… the plan is successful. He isn’t joining her and she is happy too(well, she got her ginger tea when needed). These set of guys simply make you feel, they won your interest after ages of battle in convincing you. And rest of your life you feel they deserve all the good.

A born wannabe (po** star): Lots of them, major percentage of guy fantasies his only alternate profession would be to star in a p*** movie. He assumes he knows how and when, what not to do.

Disclaimer: Women, kindly stay away from them, you have no future here.

Scenario D:

Walking , talking “wannabe” there!!!!: Hey beauuuutiiipuuulll, Wanna come for a long drive this weekend?

Silly, vulnerable girl: (Screaming, hooting, cheering, jumping he is asking me out!!!!!, thank god I am living.. thank god that sleeping pill did not kill me last night) Yeah ,Why not .

They met, they drove. What happened is ,only his talks about himself. Brag, flaunt, and brag more.

Set of guys who assure they dated at least 5 women and he could not find true love in any of them and he feels you are his “present” true love. Well, those 5 women literally kicked him out of their lives. It’s easy to find them, very simple to judge who they really are. Look at them carefully they carry a board on their head which says “please take me seriously”.

Well, I almost know what really men want.

Good food and a mug of beer and most importantly lots of love!!!!

Thanks to all the “men” in my life!!!!

Cheers

Megs

Why does it happen anyway…….

Why does it happen anyway…….

We all know mostly how our day looks like tomorrow. But what we do not know is how to avoid mundane deeds. The sardonicism is we need a perfect life without understanding what makes it perfect in real.

Every morning I see all of them rushing to office, some busy snarling at each other at signals or inappropriate places while all of us cursing our fate to have taken that road. It’s so busy in there, I mean our head it’s a workshop which can never shutdown, no power failures either. Wish there was a button to switch off n lie down gazing at the sky. 

Break ups, hardships, failures, MARRAIGES, DIVORCES unexpectedly turn to biggest mistake of our lives. Are we looking for perfect lives? is it wrong to dream or is it unrealistic at times.. most of the times.

She woke up every morning to see the bright sun shine on her day and make it almost perfect. But what didn’t make it to her complete happiness was still her ex flame or her previously outstanding, “fun time” job. Nevertheless life must go on and here she was to tread along an alien path which she hoped to manifest into a compete life.

We all need change and an immediate change but none of us ever forestall the baggage the change might cart “at” times. Why does it become impossible some times to express simple things to one who always knew and understood meekest of your interest and emotion? Is it our high expectations? Our impatience? Or in real that one person has drifted away?

It’s always been one of the usual fine mornings but her expectations from the day are pretty much higher this is only to satisfy her urge of becoming “flawless” and to lead a “comprehensive happy” life. 

Some things do not change and it’s just advisable to go through, experience, learn and get a grip!!!!

1.       Yes, all your exe’s look fabulous when you are “married”.  Move on and do not ponder over why and where it all went wrong, this will only confuse your present.

2.       Other side of the grass is “always” greener because we are always disappointed with ourselves that we just could not make it and maybe this feeling because of our “over” expectations?

3.       We all talk, and talk and talk a lot about how desperate we are for a “simple” life but never have made a plan on undoing things which always made it complicated.

4.       Yes, the brilliant plan of taking a different route will always gift you with “traffic jams” but this is how it is going to be, maybe make a plan and also expect a change in it or clearly stop making plans!!!!

5.       Sometimes having extra piece of pizza is not a crime, blunder is when you know you can’t cook or do not want to and also have the desire of eating home food.

6.       There is nothing called “picture perfect” because we do not know what makes it perfect, everything new and “unreal” seems perfect.

7.       Dream of leading a “good” n “real” life with no qualms of making mistakes but actually learning from it. Learning the imperfections in you will only make you wiser.

8.       Having stated all the above, the essential thing is to “follow” . I don’t like people screaming at me, and then you might also follow it. I wanna quit smoking you might as well do it. I love ice cream and feel like eating, just go and grab one and do not fret to have relished it. You feel like saying “ you love her/him”  and have reservations , just go ahead and say it because rest of your life you will always think he/she was perfect but could not work it out, maybe after you said it his/her answer becomes your learning!!!!

Need a “simple” life, you better plan how simple you need that to be …….

Megz!!!!

Rejoicing 12 years or more, maybe less....

It’s been 12 years or more I wonder. Times I am confused; we all squabble on years of us knowing one another so deep.

Its unfathomable years of knowing and understanding. It has only developed strong inspiration and affection on each other every meet, every talk.

                 Ups and Downs became best of experiences. Fights, misunderstandings happen to wipe out of my memories and this miraculously got us even closer.

                Larger than life for me is them, being with them. The battle of not giving up on something you earned, you deserved is the hardest thing to do.

                  It’s been 12 years or more, maybe less of experiencing highs and lows.

                I feel for certain that I know you but surprisingly every day has been another discovery.

             How’s it been these many years of meeting every day, talking, spending time, expressing the need of your presence? Do we feel it is enough?

                “I do not know why I am here; sometimes I really hate him/her. Maybe I am here to know if I can someday love him/her”.

                I speak to lot of people every day, meet them for coffee, lunch, dinner at the end of it you somewhere feel “that’s not something I was looking for” or “that’s precisely what I was hunting for “

Life is definitely a roller coaster ride, you have no idea what turn it would take next moment.

           Must be confusing to know where I am heading to after you read all of those things written above. Let me find this out with you all together!!!  After rounds of churning and swooning inside out my head I came up with below categories we are or we deal with everyday.

(Below talks refer to people I have met, questioned and partly my experiences tooJ)

“Confused Souls”: We fight all the time consistently and still feel the necessity of calling each other in crisis. This would be I “Cant figure out” state after the analysis. Ya, what is it? Is it unconditional affection or our own talent of tolerance!!!

  “So called Perfect Couple”: Over talking, bottle neck affection, superlative supporting, hyper arguments and disagreements. Only thing these two agree upon is

“I can’t handle this stress anymore “!!

What do you wanna eat?  “Chinese”!!!!

“Best Friends”: Set of two, to the world, seems everything is common between them, called as “unidentical twins” but for real have nothing in common but just that they both are crazy about “donuts”.

And maybe they are just aware of the art namely “Faking” it.

“Almost there”!!! : He/ She is my best friend, we kind of argue about most of things silently proving each other one of us is right. So much love so much respect that we are invariably partners in crime.

“Universal boon” (godsend to each one of us):“Me and him, I can easily leave this blank we are not supposed to be together or know each other we have nothing, nothing at all in common. Taste for food, clothes, movies, music, hobbies etc( this includes most of the existing).I feel sometimes god must have thought let these two meet I will sit and watch them snarl at each other with a pop corn in hand!

“Dream Come True (Silent partner, non existent)”: I and her /him share a “unique bond”, mute conversation , yet meaningful is all I can say. Sometimes we are just happy by dancing together!!! Easiest to please one another other. Mindless jokes, at times feel sad for no reason.

All our lives is no less than a soap serial we have drama, dance, fun, love, laughter, suspicion, misunderstandings, with minimal rebirths of the characters we deal everyday!!!!

           But guys only reason we all wake up every day with a smile to know we have distinguished role to play in this “soap serial” and ironically, enjoy playing one…

We have 100 reasons to fight only one reason to stay and that has only been love!

When you consciously put an effort to undo all the wrongs just so that you can have a small cuppa with unreasonable chats is something you would like it to dwell for life!!

Here are few tips for the beginners J

1.    “Fight” is fine, don’t try too hard to find out why, how? Sometimes interesting part is the making up part!! So allow that to happen first.

2.   People change for good if anybody do they are keepers; people do not change for someone without a reason and if the reason is you, definitely keepers!!!

3.   If too much is too bad at times it certainly is too many arguments, too many expectations is when someone is taking you for granted. RUN!!! For your life from here.

4.   Remember you will be able to fix only such relationships which you feel you need and vice versa. It is like watching a predictable sad movie till the end expecting the end to be different!!! Don’t chase something which you feel it’s alright if he/ she is not there.

5.   Putting efforts, wasting your energy is it worthwhile? Numerous failed attempts disappoint you but for some reason you still wanna try. My last try will not seem my last. Befuddled between hanging onto or feel it’s enough and wan to quit. This is like having the tastiest; your favourite snack in front of you and you promised yourself you will diet!!!!  I will just eat it I know for the present I need to, feels like it, and makes me feel good I will just do. Hanging on to somebody you know is essential, and you know you cannot function without is absolutely correct.

6.   You might not have same taste for food , clothes, music, or movies but somewhere you will love the difference.( if you are fighting everyday to watch your favourite channel it is “OK” because you are only fighting for the remote as of now!!!!)

7.   Ask, speak out, and express yourself truly. Allow the “genie” inside you to do the magic to your sleeping relationship. When we were kids there must have been a time when somebody gave us a choice to have “cornetto ice cream” or “regular chocolate bar” this rarely happens, only if we had shouted loud for the ice cream we would have felt complete today!!!

8.   Lastly, do not judge the present with your past experiences. If you have decided to be “different”, stay “different” do not ruin by making certain changes you thought you must never do.

Personally, People around me, with me have taught me who not to be! And also what needs to live forever.

        Guys celebrating how many ever years you have known each other or will discover new in yourselves, maybe every meet is something you all look forward to only because being wit her/him, fighting with her/him and making up for it only feels right thing to do. 12 years or more, maybe less…

(Still counting)...

Love 

Megz!!!!

Celebrating life...

Have I got all of it…? Do I live all that I always wished for or expected out of this life to see it perfect?

I fight odds everyday to make it flawless. I dream of life with my people around and things don’t change. Do I survive the battle of change, mishappenings, and disheartening events? Yes I do, to an extent where I have my people fighting with me against all wrongs.

Does a pray every single day helps? My confidence and belief has got me this far. I would never let go of things I chose and wanted to have in my life. But there are times I have felt I do not see the end in the war of my wanting against what I happen to receive. These questions linger in my mind during all my picture perfect, special, exclusive moments because this is exactly what I wanted and have no idea till when this will last. The scare of losing these moments and people involved is the most hardest to swallow.

To cope up with lot of noises in my head I choose to stand motionless and enjoy this very moment. I relish every second of this experience. “Living is not enough living at that moment, for that moment makes it memorable”. Every day I am torn between a desire to improve what I have for the day and a desire to enjoy what I am bestowed with for a day. As i struggle to make sense of things, life looks more beautiful without even trying to dig into the unknown facts and answer.

All I am saying is, if I see myself losing those special moments, I think subconsciously I am preparing to create another. And I love this about my life. It helps me design the people to be involved to generate “my elite moments”. My life is a gift of canvas I can paint the picture which I love to see every morning and that very minute I smile. People enter and exit out of your being, people who stay unchanged is all that matters. And which you should be concerned about.

I do devise my day even today, I succeed to make it almost perfect every single day. And person or set of people who helps me do that brings that adoring smile even till today. And, from whom I expected and I failed I choose not to look forward to in future.

Is it right to be waiting for something to occur from someone who never thought they could deliver that happiness to you. I just do not need faith in me and my affection. I need them to have faith in themselves too. That they will be there and moments with them become timeless. Losing an illusion will make you wiser than hunting for something which never existed. “You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep”. I always believed my silence and absence killed some people but does it really? If I am not somebody’s key ingredient to their picture perfect life they cannot be mine as well.

And how did I achieve this unimaginable spot people work hard to reach. Simply, I attain happiness from loved ones who stayed endlessly. I revive and relive every moment amongst them. Though new is alluring it is not sustaining .

Now, I see myself wiser and happier every day. Believe me, my life is almost perfect!!! I reborn with people, “my people” every time i am amidst them it do create a new, refreshing panorama captured and treasured.

This is dedicated to all those important ones who have made it happen for me… PERFECT!!! And this is how i celebrate my life... with you all..

Living Happy...

Living Happy…..                                                       

How easy or difficult is “being happy”????  My close friend says every one of us is good in some way but my question is if all of us are good in some way then why is this “good’” not enough???.  I am back from a short trip and this for me was more than just “good enough” I see it that way or I really mean it… here, this time I really mean it. This trip was not just weekend getaway but whole circle of reincarnation of happiness for me. It did bring me alive. All my loved ones at one place!!! What more you can ask for. You don’t have the trouble not reaching out them, waiting for them, looking for their help. All of them were right there with me…. 

                    “Knowing others is wisdom; Knowing the self is enlightenment; Mastering others requires force; Mastering the self needs strength” Some great man said this. And I was thrilled to know more about me. Self confidence, self satisfaction, self realization and understanding the limit of contempt is something I was hunting for. I am happy!!! I say this to myself I was wondering if I force this on to me and others around me. Do I seek love or demand love? There are times when I feel I stifle my loved ones with attention I provide and also how I take. This is disturbing and twinges your own peace. Peace within is something not so complex to attain is what I discovered. And how do we get there is something I cannot put in words. I believed in me!!!! I knew I wanted this trip and trip with people I chose that these only can be part of and this happened and it will.

      Every day during this vacation I woke up with a smile knowing everyone I want is around. How can I not be happy after this???

Little things taught me a lot and some corrected my wrongs. “Enlightenment is not imagining figures of light but making the darkness conscious.” (Carl Gustav: Swiss psychiatrist, Psychologist and Founder of the Analytic Psychology,1875-1961).

I love every single occurrence in my life. Because this has always made me a wise  person. “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” (Buddha).

In short how have I achieved this I have right set of people and people is you all…… Every stage of my life today and tomorrow people who have inspired me, loved me unconditionally is you and you….

As Ram says “I am the best” I am best because you made me one….

As Varun says “all are good in some way” but you are perfect amongst all. I became, modeled myself one as you needed me this way…

As Jay says “Ram you are the luckiest, I need her”. Jay, I love myself too for this  because you always adored me for this I never wanted to let go of this side of me.

As Pal says “akka I love”. I linger to hear that so I behave “well”!!!! 

As Sats says “Megs I knew this was your idea”. I feel good that you know me so well and so right.

       The point I am making here is I am more than grateful to you all to be what I am I wouldn’t be without you all not loving me “enough”. We need to love and this keeps us going. The love the bond is what is keeping us strong and “only” this will give us “peace” within….

Anybody “else” coming in our lives and people leaving our lives who has disturbed our peace are people I have ignored from inside. Because my “strength” lies in some and I only need them.

Lastly,

Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.(Buddha)

Love you all, and thanks for the enlightened trip!!!!!