It’s been 12 years or more I wonder. Times I am confused; we all
squabble on years of us knowing one another so deep.
Its unfathomable years of knowing and understanding. It has only
developed strong inspiration and affection on each other every meet, every
talk.
Ups and Downs became best of experiences. Fights,
misunderstandings happen to wipe out of my memories and this miraculously got
us even closer.
Larger than life for me is them, being with them. The battle of
not giving up on something you earned, you deserved is the hardest thing to do.
It’s been 12 years or more, maybe less of experiencing highs and
lows.
I feel for certain that I know you but surprisingly every day
has been another discovery.
How’s it been these many years of meeting every day, talking,
spending time, expressing the need of your presence? Do we feel it is enough?
“I do not know why I am here; sometimes I really hate him/her. Maybe
I am here to know if I can someday love him/her”.
I speak to lot of people every day, meet them for coffee, lunch,
dinner at the end of it you somewhere feel “that’s not something I was looking
for” or “that’s precisely what I was hunting for “
Life is definitely a roller coaster ride, you have no idea what
turn it would take next moment.
Must be confusing to know where I am heading to after you read
all of those things written above. Let me find this out with you all
together!!! After rounds of churning and
swooning inside out my head I came up with below categories we are or we deal
with everyday.
(Below talks refer to people I have met, questioned and partly
my experiences tooJ)
“Confused Souls”: We fight all the time consistently and still
feel the necessity of calling each other in crisis. This would be I “Cant
figure out” state after the analysis. Ya, what is it? Is it unconditional
affection or our own talent of tolerance!!!
“So called Perfect
Couple”: Over talking, bottle neck affection, superlative supporting, hyper
arguments and disagreements. Only thing these two agree upon is
“I can’t handle this stress anymore “!!
What do you wanna eat?
“Chinese”!!!!
“Best Friends”: Set of two, to the world, seems everything is common
between them, called as “unidentical twins” but for real have nothing in common
but just that they both are crazy about “donuts”.
And maybe they are just aware of the art namely “Faking” it.
“Almost there”!!! : He/ She is my best friend, we kind of argue
about most of things silently proving each other one of us is right. So much
love so much respect that we are invariably partners in crime.
“Universal boon” (godsend to each one of us):“Me and him, I can
easily leave this blank we are not supposed to be together or know each other
we have nothing, nothing at all in common. Taste for food, clothes, movies,
music, hobbies etc( this includes most of the existing).I feel sometimes god
must have thought let these two meet I will sit and watch them snarl at each
other with a pop corn in hand!
“Dream Come True (Silent partner, non existent)”: I and her /him
share a “unique bond”, mute conversation , yet meaningful is all I can say.
Sometimes we are just happy by dancing together!!! Easiest to please one
another other. Mindless jokes, at times feel sad for no reason.
All our lives is no less than a soap serial we have drama,
dance, fun, love, laughter, suspicion, misunderstandings, with minimal rebirths
of the characters we deal everyday!!!!
But guys only reason we all wake up every day with a smile to
know we have distinguished role to play in this “soap serial” and ironically, enjoy
playing one…
We have 100 reasons to fight only one reason to stay and that
has only been love!
When you consciously put an effort to undo all the wrongs just
so that you can have a small cuppa with unreasonable chats is something you
would like it to dwell for life!!
Here are few tips for the beginners J
1.
“Fight” is
fine, don’t try too hard to find out why, how? Sometimes interesting part is
the making up part!! So allow that to happen first.
2.
People change
for good if anybody do they are keepers; people do not change for someone
without a reason and if the reason is you, definitely keepers!!!
3.
If too much is
too bad at times it certainly is too many arguments, too many expectations is
when someone is taking you for granted. RUN!!! For your life from here.
4.
Remember you
will be able to fix only such relationships which you feel you need and vice
versa. It is like watching a predictable sad movie till the end expecting the
end to be different!!! Don’t chase something which you feel it’s alright if he/
she is not there.
5.
Putting
efforts, wasting your energy is it worthwhile? Numerous failed attempts
disappoint you but for some reason you still wanna try. My last try will not
seem my last. Befuddled between hanging onto or feel it’s enough and wan to
quit. This is like having the tastiest; your favourite snack in front of you
and you promised yourself you will diet!!!! I will just eat it I know for the present I need
to, feels like it, and makes me feel good I will just do. Hanging on to
somebody you know is essential, and you know you cannot function without is absolutely
correct.
6.
You might not have
same taste for food , clothes, music, or movies but somewhere you will love the
difference.( if you are fighting everyday to watch your favourite channel it is
“OK” because you are only fighting for the remote as of now!!!!)
7.
Ask, speak
out, and express yourself truly. Allow the “genie” inside you to do the magic
to your sleeping relationship. When we were kids there must have been a time
when somebody gave us a choice to have “cornetto ice cream” or “regular
chocolate bar” this rarely happens, only if we had shouted loud for the ice
cream we would have felt complete today!!!
8.
Lastly, do not
judge the present with your past experiences. If you have decided to be
“different”, stay “different” do not ruin by making certain changes you thought
you must never do.
Personally, People around me, with me have taught me who not to
be! And also what needs to live forever.
Guys celebrating how many ever years you have known each other
or will discover new in yourselves, maybe every meet is something you all look
forward to only because being wit her/him, fighting with her/him and making up
for it only feels right thing to do. 12 years or more, maybe less…
(Still counting)...
Love
Megz!!!!
