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All the first right dates……

Going on a date with a charming, enduringly clever guy would be any girl’s dream. We all girls hope for the perfect date ever and few end up becoming almost perfect dates ever!!!!

The First date: Girls insanely wait for their dates, two days to go and you can see girls smiling away to glory , looking as best as she could , wearing all “nice “ clothes, things around her seems shimmering and serene. To all the normal people it is visible that things are going off beam everywhere but this one person seems happy amidst the un pleasantry.

So as evident as it looks she has a date and also she is preparing for it from long time now. She has spoken to all her female colleagues about this gorgeous looking man she is going out this weekend. I do not know how this girl is feeling but I am sure “other” female co-workers have mentally gone out for a date with him in the state of “aw”!!!!! 

The evening finally arrived and she is all set to woo this man with her charms and wits. Brushing up her smart skills from days she won’t let any mistake ruin this exciting date.

He arrives looking more than gorgeous as she thought he would look. And right then her brain stops functioning. A greeting hug paralyzed her body parts and there she goes numb completely.

Every first date with prince charming a girl would want to prove herself “DIFFERENT” from other women he has known. But as difficult or easy it is to prove herself she tries her mental tests on him to know if he is worth taking this risk!!!!!

She:So are you seeing some one?

He:No not really I broke up with her sometime ago…

She:Oh so sorry to hear that….

He:Nah… am ok I am over it now…

BINGO!!!! Girl would very much want to know why the “Break UP” this is the test , collecting the facts of why and how , the verdict of him being a

1. Awesome!!!!!  ,
2. Ok…. can make a  ‘good friend” ,
3. No not at all man

 will be declared.

She:Hmmmm… if may I ask why the “Break Up”?????

He:Hmmm…. Ahhhh…(pause…. To actually recollect what happened????) Actually we were different people… things didn’t work out.

Her Mind: (Different people???? All are different it is supposed to be like that…. Tell me something more…. Dude…..)

His Mind: ( ohhh I don’t want to talk about this , lets talk  about us…what are we doing after dinner ???? Damnnnit!!!  she is hot!!!!)

Note: Guys want to keep their past story as short as possible and girls on the first date wants to know it all!!!!!!!

She : Oh… this happens… its ok  maybe she was not just right for you.

Girls try to keep it cool though from inside they are screaming aloud at him to tell the whole history behind his sad life….

Her Mind: ( wait a minute…. He has not even complimented me yet… why am I not looking good… come on…. )

His mind: ( **************!!!!!!!!!!!  (Looking at her))

She: The food is really good here, I love butter chicken gravy they make here.

So what cuisines are you fond of????

While they both are busy trying to get to know each other, girl’s mind is loading every single piece of information of his dislikes and likes. In between the conversations she says she had crush on him from the first day she saw and that he is most good looking guy on the floor.

Girl’s simply wants to make men feel special if they find a guy with all the attributes of being the ideal (smart, clever, respectful, humble, sweet, good sense of humor).

And the date finally ended, she is  still smiling and while she gets down from his car he says “ hey you look amazing today”

Girl Mind: WOWOOWOWOOWWOO!!!!!!! I was waiting only for this , and it happened…

OMG can I jump???? No noooooo ok relax…)

She: Thanks!!! (Visualizing herself flying on the clouds)

She walks inside her home gushing….. yes its mid night and she is still smiling…. And he????? Maybe sleeping like he never slept before but smiling….

Verdict: He is the “AWESOME!!!!!!MAN” (he finally complimented, treated her like princess, spoke good, made her laugh with his witty humor and most of all looked edible!!! J)

One more FIRST Not so right date :

These are class of dates you feel the boys are not so desirable for the romantic and must needed ones but of course still can meet when you are low, and desperately want a lending ear!!!

You cannot live with them and also without….

It does sound harsh to accept but we all have such people in our lives without them you actually cannot decide the right one.  With these kind of people you will know more what you want and look for in “your man/woman” because atleast you do not want him/her to be like these ones….

All ready to meet this person who has always done the right things for you, well technically been really careful about doing the right things just to make himself noticed by you. And you are equally excited as much as you feel obvious about his enthusiasm.

Girls do not have to wok harder and look prettier because to their eyes you are nothing but perfect!!!!!!

She: Hey how is life???

He: Today, feels better like never before……

And he goes on , you want all of this, it all seems so nice to hear only and only great things about you. Everything looks bright and so apparent it gets as he has spoke nothing but radiant elements of you. He can be the guy you could die for but something is not letting that happen , maybe this is not what it takes to be.

You both are lost , lost in your own world of colorful features of being the most desired women on the planet and still you feel moon is not the the place you want to be and not with him at least.

Her mind: (OMG he is fallen for me or what? He is all over this place bragging how happy he is being with me here.

Stop , stop right now buddy!!!!! I know I am great but if you go being more than clear about me and my looks in no time people here will start stoning us so hard that you will stop imagining your princess as it looks your imaginative side of the brain is stoned!!!!

Yes girls starts talking to herself more than to him because as good as it feels to be the best it is rather annoying to know he has no one else but you!!!!!

His Mind: Yes!!!!! She is the one , the only one for me . Mom I told you , here I come she is the one!!!! Thank you all the gods I visited for a week before meeting her. I knew it she is “ THE ONE”!!!! Next whole week I will visit more temples so that she says yes to my next date I am going to offer now…. Please lord please.. please…)

She: So… time for me to leave, It was too good meeting you….

He: oh……(from inside: sobbing so loudly I hope she don’t notice the tear in my eye) Arrrr…. Listen…. Can you???? I mean can we…. Are you free next weekend???

She: Next weekend… let me see maybe but I will surely let you know but why???

He: Nothing important my friend’s party thought you could come along with me…

She: O… great!!! I might have some plans but surely tell you…

He drops her home… did they meet again???? Well….. they did she said and he heard, they laughed, always had great time , but you cant see sparks anywhere….

Verdict: He cannot be anybody but buddy… (You need them, very much need them always to know that you are right!!!! (Although you know somewhere you are going wrong))

Another date you pray it would never happen!!!

These dates are almost regular when you get addicted in making wrong judgment on just great looks or maybe first few fine talks!!! And when this happens it affects your sense of understanding a person so violently in your mind.  It ruptures your brain cells so harsh that you will lose the hope on finding the right one ever!!!!  

Note: Well girls all i can say is please be aware and avoid such mishaps it can ruin your charm of dating the promising and enduring men coming along your way.

Yes, it’s a date after all and she is in her latest best from her long list of clothes in her wardrobe. Most of the girls have the latest fashion as it seems fashion never ends its her clothes as well it does not have limits.

Any girl’s mind: (That girl there has an amazing fit jeans either I rip off  her jeans or ask her where she bought it. Ripping will drive undue attention on her so I better hit the stores for the most recent collections!!!!)

The place is just ideal for the date and she hopes he turns out to be that perfect guy.

They meet its been an hour and all the hellos and knowing each other has come to some level.

He:  Yeah…. You look good but only if you would not have worn this t shirt, color doesn’t go that well with your skin tone.

She: Thanks… oh is it… I randomly grabbed one from the wardrobe today did not have time…( Grabbed????? What happened to the unlimited worries of wearing the right one and spending hours in changing just to look this good!!!)

Her mind: (hurtful: what does he actually mean I don’t have a good skin quality or I do not have good dressing sense.)

His mind: (I guess I just look the best in this entire place I can see that girl gaping at me insanely, I just hope her boy friend do not discover this, he might come punch me and that will spoil my new shirt  in which I look the handsomest and of course my new hairdo. I have used latest face mask cream I know I look gorgeous I do not want his blow on my face to wreck that.)

These kinds of men are self contained and over confident set you will find on planet earth. Its just not about their looks, but their intelligence, body , hormones all most all the features a man is bestowed with, they simply know they have it  to nail down all the women!!!! Humor???? Spare me the humor!!!! Their sense of joking is thankfully invented by them and I am grateful that it is based on their own lives because they fail to notice its them and not others. And why do not they see this,  its clear that jokes are made by  them because they are smart enough to create jokes!!!!(Utmost sarcasm)

Her mind: ( Wait… why is he observing me so much… or is it something behind me… ok let me just turn around and have a look. O…. why didn’t I guess this there is a mirror and its him only him that he feels so proud of, his smile says it all. Can I ask for the bill????)

His Mind: ( its me… its me… its me… and its me…. Everywhere its me… ( a rap tune))

Verdict:  She left… I cannot say any more… let the hell break, heaven dissolve it cannot and will not be him. These are no not at all… better I say never!!!!

We all go through these promiscuous moments in dates, but also the challenging yet inspiring dates also. We all learn for the better and mistakes are meant to happen. Girls as vulnerable as they look sometime they are far more intelligent to decide who will fit into their category of good guys.

Handy tips for guys:

1. When a girl is talking ill about another women never support the other one though you feel the other one was right. Go ahead and say it, rest of the evening I can see you a dead meat with guilt!!! 
2. When your date says she got a new hair cut, she means ,say that I am looking great!!! Because you have failed to notice that actually there is some change in her hair style and you had convinced your self this is how it always was!!!!
3. When a girl is telling her past sad story or just a painful story about her friend also, she expects you to be considerate. Well at least act considerate because that’s how she checks how sensitive you are.
4. When she says she fell down, some guy made a pass at her , or some incident which was a mistake, DO NOT BLAME HER for her existence she just wanted to know how much you care about her and after you made her feel that you have all the concern for her , you can say how wrong she was…
5. When they talk , they want you to listen (Though it sounds unfair to all men , Just listen!!!)
6. She is talking about your ex or she makes sure your ex pops up somehow in the conversation. It means she just wants to know if you feel that she is the right one for you. And if you think she is then generously make her feel special.
7. More you show through your gestures and words that she means a lot to you more she becomes completely yours.
8. Compliment her, appreciate for the fact of she being in your life. She is because she wanted to look good for you , she is cos she wanted to be for you!!!
9. Tell her how much you love her and you can see how hard she tries to be your dream women.
10. Lastly, Love your ladies for what they are and what they have become for you. Girls can go to any extent to make their man feel special, and to make him see the love they have for him and only him. If they don’t then you have made the wrong choice of your dream girl. There are plenty of them go hunt for the right one…

RelationShips.... We all deal with!!

Relationships, seems complicated but leaves you with the most enduring experience of your life. You meet people, with some you sense union and rest you don’t even realize their exit. I have met number of people past few years now some had terrible experience with their spouse, boyfriends or girl friends what is important here is what do you learn from all these. I have seen my own friends getting back to the same place where hell beckons. But why? Is it lack of confidence that you will not find a better person or you believe it’s better to be with the one about whom you can envisage their unhealthy reactions better than a fine one?

                 Ages have passed, technology has developed immensely in all the grounds but still it has not made any of our lives simpler when it comes to adjustments of things we have or get. With more choices on your plate more perplexed you become. “Once only person you desired happen to be the only one you want to get rid of.”

              We all have dreams, some come true some don’t, well…. For many no dreams come true!!! I guess it’s our mistake to dream unreasonably….. We carry certain ideas about how one’s relation with a guy or girl should be and we seal it. Probably so we end up not accepting any change we come across while nurturing that relation. After lots of troubles and pains, unhappiness  and hurtful  happenings of what I have heard from people, friends and myself  I have broken the term relation to three different categories. It would be fateful and for some its destiny to fall in any of these.

Category 1(The Ruler): In this relation girl or the guy rules the other totally!!! Controlling is in every blood cell. They tend to govern your daily activities. They are all over almost 75% of relationships are based on this one category. Some people need such “Rulers” only because they do not know how to become or cant become one.. The Only Prisoner of HIS/HER obsessive affection and wrong choices!!!

·         Time for you to get up,

·         Have you sent good morning message to her/him

·         Go pick her up n should drop her to the workplace/college!! You haven’t taken bath its fine… she has anyways…. (Applies to men only)

·         Call him/her at regular intervals of time…. Mostly all the time!!

·         How many times have you said “I love you” for the day… only 20 times…. WRONG!!!!

·         It’s just me your life revolves around and no place to escape

·         Some unwelcomed opinions/support/help/advices from your “only” loved one. Not that you can say no because they have decided to do so.

·         Your life changing decisions are made by them. (You should have thought about this when you decided to be with this person and that already have changed your life!!!!)

Category 2(Vague): You definitely do not know what you can term the relation you are sharing with this person you cannot live without or say can live with. Little tense moments and lots of fun define this relationship. Yeah at times you do feel like putting an end to such involvement and giving it a name but that just do not happen. This one of such relation where things are unbecoming of what you expect.

·         She/he is gorgeous or handsome but she/he is just “my friend”

·         I love having coffee with him/her but I don’t look forward for it impatiently.

·         Yeah I can come along….

·         She/he comes to you with series of crushes they had and initially you are “OK” with it but gradually your emotional senses starts working and u just don’t like it!!

·         Lots of Whys, how’s???? surround you

·         You do miss this person severely then you will get a hang of it and you start avoiding the facts which says WHY IS THIS HAPPENING NOW????

·         You will end up moving on in life because you never stopped anytime to give this kind of relation a “CHANCE”!!

Category 3(By Mistake): This relation is sewed when you least expect it. You are out of one deep love or “What so Ever” relation and this person appears in your life of course surprisingly , to some extent shockingly she/he is everything your “EX” was not or could not be!! Not that you were waiting for one such person to come along and take care of you though you are badly in “NEED” of love and affection. Bu t yes my dear readers it sure happens this way and you tend to not escape from this or let’s just say you do not want to because you are in “NEEEED” of  such person. Happiness when it goes over the top it becomes unbelievable and unbearable at times. That’s when you realize all this which you thought would be happening with the one you loved is happening with this person.  We make “Mistakes” and we start living a life with these.  I am not against such relation because I feel it’s a good thing you found all of it in this person what your “EX” couldn’t be!!!  But the unfortunate ones are not to be blamed because every “Mistake” doesn’t turn out to be a Perfect Surprise which is just great to last forever.

·         You instantly start comparing this person with “other” people( turns out to be the “Best” in every aspect)

·         It’s almost  a “Dream” to be and spending time with this person(this is exactly what you wanted out of a “Relation”)

·         As “Perfect” as she/he can get…

·         Great Lunches,  Right evenings, Long hours of  “meaningful” conversation

·         Adjustments are petite with this person

·         Trivial battle of words is only making you get closer to this person.

Relationships are the chief areas where you obtain best teachings of life. Some are handy, from some you learn how not to be!!!

Our entire life we spend looking for the “Right” one, Yes it is a process, after ages of filtrations, sampling of few, loss of money, time, energy you finally alter your “demands” of finding the right one!!And I don’t see it as a WASTE because it isn’t coz you at the end have the “ONE” you feel is “SORTED” and “ETERNAL”!!!

Being scared to plunge in the “Right Relationship” you think it is, is a risk anyway but fighting the odds and emerging as a winner is Destiny!!!

  My Advice to all of you is get into relationships which is inevitable but “DEFINING” the relation to yourself and to him\her is imperative. The relation which brings smile on your face and soothes your life’s strain, energizes you to appreciate what you have, what you contain is the one you must not lose. Amidst the confusion you find solution through this one person only because he/she has known you “WELL” enough to heave you out. Relations need no name if that fairly keeps you contented!!!

*few guide lines:

·         Be aware of “people” around you, never know one of them happens to be your “special” one.

·         Listen to him/her who has consistently supported you or guided you.

·         Appreciate things he/she do (coz no one else is doing it anyway).

·         Give a “THOUGHT” to that extraordinary bond you share with this person.

·         Give a “CHANCE” to this break in your relation.(Halt  is needed , you will only know how important or not so important HE/SHE is)

·         Any relation with no name is fine because you are not feeling anything else but pleased!!!(But some Sanity, Purity is required!!!)

·         Any Meaningful Relation with anyone would never be squandered, it will only make you a WISE person.

To Be in RIGHT RELATION LOVE, RESPECT is ESSENTIAL, more importantly RIGHT CHOICE!!!!